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The sandpiper

by tealady @ 30 Jan. 2006 - 11:10:15 am

I received this in an email

The Sandpiper by Robert Peterson

She was six years old when I first met her on the beach

Near where I live. I drive to this beach,

A distance of three or four miles, whenever the world
Begins to close in on me. She was
Building a sand castle or something and looked up, her
Eyes as blue as the sea.

"Hello," she said.

I answered with a nod, not really in the mood to bother
With a small child.

I'm building," she said.

"I see that. What is it?" I asked, not really caring.

"Oh, I don't know, I just like the feel of sand."

That sounds good, I thought, and slipped off my shoes.

A sandpiper glided by.

"That's a joy," the child said.

"It's a what?"

"It's a joy. My mama says sandpipers come to bring us joy."

The bird went gliding down the beach. Good-bye joy, I

Muttered to myself, hello pain, and turned to walk on. I was depressed,

My life seemed completely out of balance.

"What's your name?" She wouldn't give up.

"Robert," I answered. "I'm Robert Peterson."

"Mine's Wendy... I'm six."

"Hi, Wendy."

She giggled. "You're funny," she said.

In spite of my gloom, I laughed too and walked on. Her
Musical giggle followed me.

"Come again, Mr. P," she called. "We'll have another happy day."

The next few days consisted of a group of unruly Boy

Scouts, PTA meetings, and an ailing mother.

The sun was shining one morning as I took my hands out

Of the dishwater. I need a sandpiper,

I said to myself, gathering up my coat.

The ever-changing balm of the seashore awaited me. The
Breeze was chilly but I strode along,

Trying to recapture the serenity I needed.

"Hello, Mr. P," she said. "Do you want to play?"

"What did you have in mind?" I asked, with a twinge of annoyance.

"I don't know. You say."

"How about charades?" I asked sarcastically.

The tinkling laughter burst forth again. "I don't know what that is."

"Then let's just walk."

Looking at her, I noticed the delicate fairness of her

Face. "Where do you live?" I asked.

"Over there." She pointed toward a row of summer cottages.

Strange, I thought, in winter.

"Where do you go to school?"

"I don't go to school. Mommy says we're on vacation."

She chattered little girl talk as we strolled up the

Beach, but my mind was on other things. When I

Left for home, Wendy said it had been a happy day.

Feeling surprisingly better, I smiled at her and agreed.

Three weeks later, I rushed to my beach in a state of

Near panic. I was in no mood to even greet Wendy.

I thought I saw her mother on the porch and felt like

Demanding she keep her child at home.

"Look, if you don't mind," I said crossly when Wendy

Caught up with me, "I'd rather be alone today."

She seemed unusually pale and out of breath.

"Why?" she asked.
I turned to her and shouted, "Because my mother died!"
And thought, My God, why was I saying this to a little child?

"Oh," she said quietly, "then this is a bad day."

"Yes," I said, "and yesterday and the day before and --
Oh, go away!"

"Did it hurt?" she inquired.

"Did what hurt?" I was exasperated with her, with myself.

"When she died?"

"Of course it hurt!" I snapped, misunderstanding,
Wrapped up in myself. I strode off.

A month or so after that, when I next went to the

Beach, she wasn't there. Feeling guilty, ashamed,

And admitting to myself I missed her, I went up to the

Cottage after my walk and knocked at the door.

A drawn looking young woman with honey-colored hair

Opened the door.

"Hello," I said, "I'm Robert Peterson. I missed your little girl today and wondered where she was."

"Oh yes, Mr. Peterson, please come in. Wendy spoke of you so much. I'm afraid I allowed her to
bother you. If she was a nuisance, please, accept my apologies."

"Not at all -- she's a delightful child." I said,

suddenly realizing that I meant what I had just said.

"Wendy died last week, Mr. Peterson. She had leukemia.

Maybe she didn't tell you."

Struck dumb, I groped for a chair. I had to catch my breath.

"She loved this beach, so when she asked to come, we couldn't say no. She seemed so much better
here and had a lot of what she called happy days.

But the last few weeks, she declined rapidly..."

Her voice faltered, "She left something for you, if

only I can find it. Could you wait a moment while I look?"

I nodded stupidly, my mind racing for something to say to this lovely young woman. She handed me a

smeared envelope with "MR. P" printed in bold childish letters. Inside was a drawing in bright crayon hues -- a yellow beach, a blue sea, and a brown bird.

Underneath was carefully printed:

A SANDPIPER TO BRING YOU JOY.

Tears welled up in my eyes, and a heart that had almost forgotten to love opened wide. I took Wendy's mother in my arms.
"I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry," I uttered over and over, and we wept together.

The precious little picture is framed now and hangs in my study.

Six words -- one for each year of her life --

that speak to me of harmony, courage, and undemanding love.

A gift from a child with sea blue eyes and hair the
color of sand -- who taught me the gift of love.

NOTE: This is a true story sent out by Robert Peterson.

It happened over 20 years ago and the incident changed his life forever. It serves as a reminder to all of us that we need to take time to enjoy living and life and each other. The price of hating other human beings is loving oneself less.

Life is so complicated, the hustle and bustle of everyday traumas can make us lose focus about what is truly important or what is only a momentary setback or crisis.

This week, be sure to give your loved ones an extra hug, and by all means, take a moment... even if it is only ten seconds, to stop and smell the roses.

This comes from someone's heart, and is read with many and now I share it with you...

May God Bless everyone who reads this! There are NO coincidences!

Everything that happens to us happens for a reason.

Never brush aside anyone as insignificant.

Who knows what they can teach us?

I wish for you, a sandpiper.

Jokes-Questions & Answers

by tealady @ 18 Jan. 2006 - 09:28:29 pm

The following questions and answers were supposedly collated from one years British GCSE exams. (16 year olds)

Q: What are steroids?
A: Things for keeping carpets still on the stairs.

Q: Explain one of the processes by which water can be made safe to drink.
A: Flirtation makes water safe to drink because it removes large pollutant like grit, sand, dead sheep and canoeists

Q: In a democratic society, how important are elections?
A: Very important.Sex can only happen when a male gets an election.

Q: What happens to your body as you age?
A: When you get old, so do your bowels and you get intercontinental.

Q: What happens to a boy when he reaches puberty?
A: He says goodbye to his boyhood and looks forward to his adultery

Q: What is the Fibula?
A: A small lie.

Q: What does varicose mean?
A: Nearby.

Q: What is the most common form of birth control?
A: Most people prevent contraception by wearing a condominium.

Q: Give the meaning of the term Caesarean Section.
A: The caesarean section is a district in Rome.

Q: What is a seizure?
A: A Roman emperor.

Q:What is a terminal illness?
A: When you are sick at the airport

blogs for everyone?

by tealady @ 16 Jan. 2006 - 09:54:08 am

I like the RSS feeds from infrequently updated blogs. It's a great way of keeping track without having to check.
http://www.blog.co.uk/srv/feeds/feed.php

I also use Mercola's blog and BBC science blog and a clinical cases blog. I have tried the BBC news and yahoo blogs too.. but I prefer just the websites a they are easier to read with picies in the and a scan ..rather than a large no of new updates.
I like feeling that my posts wont be deleted by anyone, yet anyone can read them or ignore them as they choose.

If a lot of us had blogs and had RSS feed to all of them we could easily keep in touch.. much like joint emails.
The original posts as well
as comments can be deleted by the owner whenever he feels its old or something..like emails I guess, but people can still copy them if they want.. or link to them if its likely to 'stay' and not just general chitchat.
I'd been thinking of a blog format instead of a forum for general chitchat support etc too.. but I'm still undecided.

At present I feel posting a lot on forums, especially helping newbies out, is beyond me.
Probably from what happened. Maybe it affected me psychologically :-) Maybe after 4 or more years I just got worn out too :-) I'm hitting the wrong keys, my eyesight is going..and I keep reversing letters words, can't think clearly to express myself.. I guess I just need a break or a change.

My thinking of blogs for all is , I can RSS all of them ..read what I feel like (same as email) , respond if I want.. if allowed via the blog email facility or adding a comment, just keep in touch with how everyone is going. I can link to anything of interest on their blog.. or just copy it even:-)
I can store my own history..and have somewhere date ordered where I can put my posts I find from he thyroid forum .. if I want to be able to search them.

Anyway.. that's the thinking.

A lot of work ..and slow going..just starting to look at ones here.. although they now have adds for new accounts .. or there is another that allows you to alter the look and feel ..post from word..and no adds
http://health-etrolley.blogspot.com/ (just fiddling here folks.. not even sure if I'll keep the same address for any of mine as yet!)

A good example of what can be done at blogspot ..and one I have on my RSS feed is http://casesblog.blogspot.com/
Then again blog.co.uk lets you loook at stats and have your own private blog which is invisible to the outside as a diary..etc.. not sure of blogspot, havent found this as yet.

They all let you put in google adds!

I thought blog.co.uk was too hard to use as I coudnt compose in word or email and copy the htm;.. but if I do a view source first then copy the html and paste as html, there is not a lot of editing to do.
I take hours to edit a post these days.

I'm playing with it at blogspot as well.
Gillian says google themselves have one too.. I remember that now too.. it was something I was going to look at one day.
Update: I've just found another blog site that allows you to alter the look and feel of your blog and loks easy to use ot.. with a great..wide! classic blog already set up. The one's here are too narrow.
I couldn' get tealady again! I've signed up as JTealady.. Its at http://www.xanga.com/JTealady

nothing there as yet though.

If anyone does et their own going sometime in the fuure, be sure to let me know..no rush.. theses things take time.
none of mine are really ready to go live as yet :-)
..still just fiddling.
But I guess they are OK as a temporary communication.
At least with blogs, there is noway people can be treated like I and others were on Mary's thryoid forums. And we can't get our posts deleted..if anyone chooses to read them or not..its their own personal decision..as it should be.

Good to hear from everyone,
Jan

Parody

by tealady @ 11 Jan. 2006 - 06:32:27 am

If everything is coming your way, You're in the wrong lane.

I used to have an open mind but my brains kept falling out

Change is inevitable, except from a vending machine

Make it idiot-proof and someone will make a better idiot

How much deeper would the ocean be without sponges

Learn from your parents' mistakes - use birth control

Hard work has a future payoff. Laziness pays off NOW

I almost had a psychic boyfriend but he left before we met.

All generalizations are false

My inferiority complex is not as good as yours

Madness takes its toll. Please have exact change

We are only young once, but we can stay immature forever

Stupidity got us into this mess - why can't it get us out?.

My karma ran over your dogma

If you don't know where you are going, you will wind up somewhere else

Practice safe eating - always use condiments

Out of my mind. Back in five minutes

I don't suffer from insanity, I enjoy every minute of it

The universe is a big place, perhaps the biggest

I have kleptomania, when it gets bad, I take something for it

Why be difficult, when with effort, you can be impossible?

Errors have been made. Others will be blamed

Family History-Johnson- 1881 England Census is FREE

by tealady @ 10 Jan. 2006 - 07:34:07 pm

I joined ancestry.co.uk and started putting a family tree on there. So far only the free version, but you can access all the 1881 census records for England for free!

Isabell was in this family.

I guess the spelling is probably wrong after you comments on the census returns , thanks. My Mum thought it was spelt different..she thought maybe only one "l" :-)

I'd love access to other census records.. like 1871, 861, 1851, 1891, 1901 LOL

I'm thinking of joining for a trial 2 week period, but I'm just trying to get in as much as we all know so far.

Have you ever used a package?
I downloaded a family tree package which sounds good too.. I haven't tried it out as yet , but it lets you put in comments ..medical history and funny things that happened would be good, as well as photos.

I cant find the irish records.. as they've been destroyed !!
http://homepage.tinet.ie/~seanjmurphy/nai/censusmemo.htm

The fatal decision is recorded in a letter dated 26 March 1918 from one Edward O'Farrell, an official in the Chief Secretary's Office and a Census Commissioner, to the Registrar General, granting permission to destroy the censuses of 1881 and 1891, following the 'same course . . . as was adopted in the case of the census returns of 1861 and 1871' (CSO LB 240). Again, in the minds of some public officials, precedent is a well nigh sacred thing, and the fact that a certain course of action has been followed in the past means that it should be followed in the present and indeed ad infinitum

So I'm stuck at present with my Irish ancestors.. North and South !!

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